Are we supposed to outlive our children?

Are we supposed to outlive our children? NO and NO, but we cannot control life, it gives joy but life also hurts, life can suck like hell.
Friday afternoon, the daughter of a dear friend died suddenly in hospital, 15 years old from a heart attack (a small hole in the right chamber). Why? His best friend called me on Friday evening to tell me with a broken voice, why? We are not suppossed to bury our children. It should be the opposite, we bury our parents, as we did last year, You can have peace with the fact that "they lived the life they choose" but what choice did she have? She told her father that she was afraid and he thought going to the hospital...". Today the first day of April, a Sunday, will be a day to remember and enjoy our children because today we are together, cherish this day. Eventhough one son lies like a roman, zapping on the couch and the other one cursing the printer for not printing his homework. The sun is shining and today, this moment i am and they are alive.
Be alive, Jan Willem